Be Kind Online - Derin Beechner

[Applause] so a couple housekeeping things uh I was originally my my submission was really originally a safe and secure online presentation for kids right for the kids track and they did away with that so they asked me to switch to parents which I have for you but the description makes it sound like you're going to be watching Garfield videos so unfortunately no Garfield videos sorry about that but but I will say this especially for the dads in the group um and moms um uh if you'd like to see those videos if you'd like to show your kids some of those videos you hit me up afterwards I'll give you my card email me and I'll I'll send them to you

because they're great videos all right guys I'm going to go through like a 50 minute slide in about 25 minutes slide deck so I'm going to go pretty fast it's gonna my audience you guys are going to know a lot of this but um stop focusing on you right and and and uh think about your kids and think about think about life and security through their point of view and so so switch it up just a little bit so here we go all right so um the center for cyber safety and education did the study it's a little bit dated but I'll tell you I don't think the numbers have improved I think if anything the numbers and the stats

I'll give you have gotten worse but um they did a a very large study and out of that study out of the that um um those those stats and questionnaires that they gave to people they came up with a lot of um staticians stats that they they put in a slide deck they made it available in a very lengthy report and they've used that report to to create actually several different slide decks like I say um some for younger children and some for at the junior high level they tried high school they couldn't quite figure it out so they kind of switch gears and there's also a parents Edition which I'll be doing today and

there's also a senior Edition so as I'm going through the slides you might also think about the seniors in your family my mom who lives with me is 81 years old and she comes to me several times throughout the day and says you know what does this mean and first thing I have to ask her is is it a text is it an email what's the context right um it's usually asking her to click on something that I know is going to do bad things but uh so think about that as well all right the biggest thing that uh and this kind of sort of uh dates me as well but uh there's a big difference between

digital immigrants and digital Natives and most of us few youngans in the crowd are digital immigrants so there was a time in my life when I did not well not only did I not have a cell phone but cell phones didn't exist right I'm dating myself a little bit um there were times in my life when Bill Gates said something like you know personal computers wasn't going to be a thing that everybody would have in their home and so I didn't have one in my home and then all of a sudden in my life technology exploded Ed right so we the I'm am the Immigrant our kids however are the natives they've never known a

time when they didn't have a screen in front of their eyes right so um uh that's a that's a a big difference I like to uh point out so kids need to understand and it's not just kids anything they share online will stay online forever um my buddy has a website he goes to quite a bit that's an archive site so sites that have been taken down and he wants to go back there and find something funny he just goes to this website that's archived everything and he can find it um like I say these stats might be a little outdated but I I say I don't think they've gotten better I think they've gotten worse 30% of children 8 8

to 14 years old uh use the internet in a way they know their parents would not approve um and and and you'll see some things in the slide deck that's a little bit dated as well so chatting and using webcams with strangers borrowing parents credit cards I've heard a lot of that lately um when I when this presentation first came out I'm like what parent is going to give their kids their credit cards um I think if you talk with parents nowadays that happens a lot um making po decisions with personal information they can scroll before they crawl right uh that's this new that's this that's this new generation my kids are uh youngest the 17 19 and on up uh

was a different generation for me but the kids nowadays um that is absolutely true so we're going to train them at younger ages uh we're not going to wait uh we're going to have some difficult conversations with them if there would have been kids here today I would have had a slight disclaimer um uh and uh you know hopefully the Cyber skills the Cyber safety skills will become routine but um as we've seen in many many of presentations today it's not even routine for adults but hopefully it will be for our kids and the big message of this presentation my my presentation my message to you guys especially parents right you are the superheroes you have the opportunity to

be the good guy you have the opportunity to protect your kids you have the job to protect your kids that's your role right and it's no different with h cyber security over half of the children's surveyed are on the internet after 1000 p.m. I think that's probably a pretty good scat stat 10% admit that they were late to school because of being online late at night 5% miss school 90% have their phones tablets or computers in their room and this is a tough one again this probably dates this presentation but how do you take screens and it's plural right how do you take screens away from your kids at a certain time frame maybe you say to them okay right

just like there's a bedtime there's a time when screens go away as well um but you're going to have to be a um disciplined parent to do that but you can set up some simple controls uh regulate the usage especially at night uh how many of us have stayed up late in night at night and have not had a good day the next day because we didn't sleep well it's no different for our kids uh prevent usage in private I like this one if there must be a computer in the bedroom make sure the screen faces the door four keep devices in a central location set up a central charging station this one's been around for a while you've

probably heard this one but I think it's a good one uh grab all the phones tablets and put it in a centralized location probably in your room take your phone out of your hands and plug it in and put it on the same charger put them away let them charge uh take advantage of built-in access controls and when this presentation came out they were harder to find but I think many of the phones iPhones and and Androids um have a lot more security built into them why because 37% of kids have accidentally visited sites meant for adults 20% of they searching for those sites on purpose um and we know this many devices can be set up and maybe you don't but

look at the device look at your phone know it all right there are um most of the time out of the box you turn it on there's be some security controls and if there's not controls that you can find easily there's a bazillion apps out there that you can get that also helps uh secure it and that's a good one set it up set the devices the controls up before you give it to your CH children because if you don't and they detect something they're going to play they're going to try to get around it for even greater control create all your children your child's online passwords for them I thought that was a good one as well um

require the CH the child to have your input uh before they use an online account or purchasing apps uh some of these social media icons are probably a little dated as well uh we can probably name them today but I could probably put 10 more on here that we might not be able to name that our kids would be able to name pretty easily uh age requirements I think my twins were maybe 10 or 11 when they got Facebook accounts and I think the minimum wage was 13 and um mom and dad let them do that um but in my defense Facebook was new and we didn't know what it was like and we didn't know how bad it could be or

good it could be um but I don't know if I would do something like that today if I had to do it all over again 30% of children lie about their age to get on onto Facebook so my kids probably technically lied but they had Mom and Dad's permissions but I'm sure a lot of kids um you know we can't prevent them unless we're uh monitoring their activity from going to Facebook and creating an account online um and we know this all day to provided on social networks is stored and most of the time and is shared by default uh ensure your Ensure your child's profile is set to private so I think this is also something that's

newer um especially as some of these social media platforms allow more kids to join right they understand the difference between children and adults so take advantage of some of those uh controls talk to your kids talk to your kids explain to them what it means to post something and to your elderly people too right my aunt will post personal messages as a post on Facebook right hi Darren how you doing and everybody sees it um so talk to your kids about that as well make parental approval of of social groups or networks part of your child's parent Internet contract um and uh if you go out to um I Square the safe and secure online portal uh they have a lot

of uh different like this contract that they're referencing and other materials that you can share with your kids they have things you can color and and cartoons you can watch and such um so that you can you can make those um commitments with your kids uh friend or follow your kids so that you can check out what they're doing and hopefully they won't make a fake account uh let your kids know online activity and post could be available to everyone including future employers which we all know um maybe some of the younger people in here you know when you're go go get a job you want to like Purge maybe some of your history but uh we need to we need to

communicate that to our kids as well um social media should not become a popularity contest ah man how many adults need to understand that treat others the way they want to be treated again ouch um stop and think before your post wow they're just bringing it to to the adults aren't they never share your age School address phone number last name vacation information or when parents are not home this is a big one that we as adults um probably take for granted we either post on purpose or we know not to do this but our kids might not they might be taking very similar pictures or they might be looking at our posts and think that they can create a

post very similar and uh give things away that they shouldn't uh never never agree to meet a stranger you met online um we know that that's happened as well picture be worth more than you know right this talks about the metadata that's in pictures uh I think I was taking some pictures today with my iPhone and it popped up like the iPhone popped up and gave me the metadata and uh I thought to myself yeah I can't post it online that way I will have to delete the metadata geotagging same thing right teach your kids or maybe we could do it for them to deactivate the gation so we don't have to worry about it and cell phones are changing all the

time right that last bullet um I think they've gotten a lot better but yes all right I wasn't going to spend too much time on this especially if there were kids in the room but uh this is a big deal especially for older kids older you know they're not children anymore but they're not adults yet either uh this is something that I think uh man I'm I'm I'm kind of thankful I don't have kids younger uh than uh 17 because I think I would and I and maybe fortunately I had all boys uh maybe but uh this would be conversations I would be having with them a lot earlier on cyberbullying we've all heard about

that um I think that's something that we're going to teach our kids just like we would teach them the alphabet we would teach them and we do in general we teach them how to be nice kids but the internet it's so easy to be anonymous and think that we can get away with things that that we're not really supposed to get away with some talking points here teach your kids ah teach your kids

right and I'm going to skim through this a little bit guys gaming and this is one I like it's not what it was when I was a kid I was going to say when we were kids but I'm a little older now uh I'm amazed at how video games have changed over the years um so now they have Radiance which they didn't when I was younger and it's so easy to talk with strangers right I remember having a headset my my my Xbox 360 again kind of dates me a little bit talking to people from around the world I didn't know that was cool I was 20 some years old and now I'm I think how does that translate to

kids um maybe cool maybe it's good maybe they hear some different accents maybe they quote unquote make some online friends but maybe those folks really aren't as far away or maybe who they say they are so we have to be careful with that 50 50% of children are playing violent games again old stat I'm sure it hasn't gotten better games have restrictions right use them be vigilant um and when this presentation came out these ratings were still fairly new so the ratings are there for a reason use them how many of us play games that either have chat or like I mentioned before you can you can talk verbally but they'll go into there'll be some more

slides here in a bit they talk about chat rooms chat rooms is an archaic term um to now it's it's almost anything you have online that game wise you can either talk or you can chat chat rooms right webcams um we need to teach our kids uh the dangers of that 21% of children visit the chat rooms where they can talk to strangers 25 of those children gave a stranger their phone number one out of five spoke with a stranger one out of 10 met a stranger online those are some alarming stats um teach him how to remain anonymous just like we would to a point right we might give a screen name or maybe our first name but we're going to

remain pretty Anonymous even as adults even when we're talking to adults teach our kids to even uh do more than that maybe not give their name maybe just stick with a screen name choose an alias sign out if the topic turns to a sensitive issue like sex and drugs I think we need to teach our kids that if they're starting to feel awkward or uneasy that it's okay to disconnect um and uh if we were better parents maybe we'd be watching over their shoulder so that we might turn it off when that happens uh guilty I'm guilty of that not doing that never follow strangers instructions send photos or download content we need to talk to our kids about that passwords

this one's one I like a lot so when I talk at work so I didn't mention it in the beginning of my presentation I work at black and Beach I work in their cybercity group I focus on instent response uh and also um um security awareness so what I tell my professionals is think about that song that's been stuck in your head think about a book you've been reading think about a movie you watch think about a quote quote um and I I encourage people to use a sentence right to use a line from a song start with uppercase put spaces in between words use punctuation throughout and put a period or an exclamation point we talked about that

this morning maybe not just an exclamation point but put punctuation through it throughout it um when you do that usually your password is much more memorable it's much more easier to type um I don't usually Pat it with numbers um if I'm making something that's that long and you know um I want to hold your hand or or I'm thinking of you know T your Beetle song or whatever song it is usually that line is going to be 20 to 40 characters long and you don't think it's going to be 40 characters long until you actually think about the sentence that you're typing but you don't have to worry about it any other password with gibberish in it 40

characters long would be a nightmare um but sentences are a lot are a lot easier and it's it's not always the complexity it's the length of the password speak to your children about the risk of downloading speak to your employees about that as well make sure your antivirus software is up to dat uh yeah it's so easy to download games whether it's on your phone or whether it's on your computer uh we need to talk to our kids about that just like they would spend money we need to talk to them about that before handing a phone to your child make sure they do not have the ability or password to install applications that's a great one children should be

given information about malware and why it's dangerous to download random things on the internet they talk a little bit about the differences between different uh um uh different types of malware and then tips keep your antivirus updated update your programs man this is the the same stuff we tell our employees isn't it the same stuff we tell people at work same stuff would be should we should be telling our kids same stuff would be we should we telling our uh our our older uh um relatives as well update your antivirus update your software and involve your children in the process so that they understand what they're protecting and why uh antiviruses the mo again this is

a little bit dated right but passwords are usually the first line of defense but there's so many other precautions we could take as well warnings my mom what's this warning mean right we get that right our kids should be our kids should be coming to us with something similar right if they see this type of warning let's not teach them to just click through it but let's teach them to come to us so that we can see it as well uh update your browsers update your operating system scams how many stories have you heard I won't blame it on you how many stories have you heard of parents that have had to call companies and unorder

things to try to get their money back because their kids have ordered things online I've I've heard those stories fishing emails do kids have email right I don't know if that technology is still there for kids but uh um just like we would teach her our professionals who use EML a lot let's teach our kids um it's probably something they're going to use uh later on in life so let's teach them the the the hygiene around email as well teach them how to recognize fishing be cautious of attachments same thing we tell our professionals always get confirmation from the cinder first back up your data wow it just keeps it just the K hits keep coming um same thing with kids

right and most phones will do this automatically um when we're at work one drive usually does it or something like one drive uh we can do the same thing with our computers same thing with our kids uh back it up all right so start early keep talking respect age ratings teach passwords and privacy that's probably a big one teach your kids how to make strong passwords uh use access controls protect identity and location explain sex and consequences protect update and backup know the signs of cyber bullying Monitor and communicate um and this is the this is their website IM cybersafe I belong to a local chapter many chapters but I'm very involved and and I

helped start the local ISC squar chapter so ISC squar is the one that put this together they're the bigger sponsor of this they have um presentations so if you have youth groups whether it's in a church whether it's uh in uh scouting or girl scouts or whatever the organization is and they have badges or they have um uh needs to hear this type of message uh I squ has some great content out there like I say they they partnered with Jim uh Jim Davis in the past with Garfield and they made some presentations there's one on cyber bullying there's one on privacy and there's one on posting no I don't remember what the third one is but they're great

presentations and uh um if you uh reach out to me or the local chapter um we're we're our chapter one of the things that we want to do as a chapter with the with the with members that are in our chapters to give back to the community and do these types of presentation and our community so if you have a need for that reach out to us and um we will uh try to um get some speakers from our chapter that are willing to uh to go um school's another one schools are a little harder to get into but if your school is interested in that kind of thing we'd be open to that as well um

schools are just usually a little more protective of their of their um lessons and such but but I will say that that what I've submitted for this talk today was a lesson plan um with all the things that a that a that that a that a school would normally um require from a lesson plan um and ISU Square put that all together and provided it to folks to hand out all right that's my presentation guys thank [Applause]

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